In order to figure out how to find it, we first have to sort out what “it” even is. And that’s just what Ane and I are trying to do.
As I’ve been thinking more about the idea of balance, I realized that the way I had always thought about it is in that same self-important and self-centered way that people had thought about the universe; before we discovered that the earth goes around the sun and not the other way around. I thought that a “magical balance sweet spot” existed. That if I could just find that one spot and get my feet securely in it, then I would be able to perfectly balance everything else around me. Life would feel even and I would feel in control.
But that’s not how we operate, and that’s not how the world works. We are never truly still. We are, as Ane says: “constantly moving and changing.” And all that changing and movement makes it very difficult to find that “balance sweet spot”, get into it and expect to stay there.
So what I’ve finally come to is this: being and feeling balanced is wholly dependent on our ability and willingness to be flexible and roll with change. There is no “magical” balanced place to get to. Which is both depressing to me, and intensely freeing. Because it means that besides listening to and not judging myself, there is no right way to do it, which is kind of scary. But that also means that there’s no wrong way to do it either, which is kind of awesome.
I’m doing my best not to judge myself for all my back and forth swings on the pendulum. To love and accept, or at least, not hate myself for my moments of excess and my moments of restriction. But to allow them both to happen and then allow them both to pass. To let them be neither good, nor bad, but just what I need in that moment. And the more I’m able to not judge myself (or at least judge myself less) the more I’m able to let all of it be transient. And as I do that, I believe I am getting closer to balance.
What do you think? How do you find balance?
Ane Axford is a rockin’ hypnotherapist in NYC who specializes with the 20% of the population who are highly sensitive. Find out more about her at her website:www.sensitiveandthriving.com
The music in this episode is “Stand Where You Stand” from Destry’s new awesome album, ‘Waiting On An Island’. Check out their website here: www.destryband.com
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